CONTROL AND POWER

The difference between the desire for control and the desire for power is an overlooked one. if oxford dictionary considers them synonyms then why should the lay public contradict this? Control seems to be the ability to move people about in accordance with your desires. It very heavily involves a person's own emotions, like a puppet master pulling the strings on his puppets to make them move a certain direction. It involves manipulation and small changes in body movement, much like control of other human beings. It involves subtle changes in the tone of your voice and facial expression which causes a tweak in the brain of the other person. They automatically agree with you, and even if they don't, the assumption is there that you are intellectually superior to them in all aspects, so they follow you anyway.you make them doubt their own intelligence because you know better.  An important aspect of a person in control is the lack of fear of them. They rule simply by intelligence and respect. There is one fear of those below them though, and that is the fear of being proven wrong and humiliated. Or the fear of being shunned by society.
Power however, relies very heavily on fear of pain and nonexistence. The person in power may also be in control, but there may or may not be respect involved. But somewhere down the chain of superiority is someone who gave this person weight. No doubt, many people in power are intelligent but paradoxically they may not completely be in control. Many times, it is the advisor who is pulling the strings. Someone weak but intelligent using the bravery of the dominant person. Their control is exerted through this beast in power. But they would be far too weak and self conscious to gain authority for themselves.

Every person desires control of those around him. Every person desires control of their own self more than anything. Then there would be no sadness. But ultimate control of ones thoughts and emotions then may also mean one risks losing happiness and all other emotions that make us human. If there are no surprises there are no spontaneous emotions. Everything is preplanned and known. We will become robots. But for some, this concept of control is enough to make them desire it.